Double Standards

So today I decided to listen to some music on my Iphone through internet radio, Pandora, Sky.fm, DI.fm, shoutcast, etc... While I was listening I noticed they are playing Beyonce a lot, like every 10 minutes. And anyone who knows me, knows that I am not very fond of her because of her lyrics. Such as, "If you like it, put a ring on it" or "If I was a boy". These two songs annoys me the most because it shows the lack of understanding she has, and the double standard she basically setting for her listeners.

If you carefully think about what she is saying, If you like a girl, put a ring on her. Thoughts that comes to mind. The girl is an object that I can claim. If I put a ring on her, she is mine. Girls should expect guys to give her a ring, not the other way around. I am having a lot of trouble when girls ask to be treated equally and turns around expecting chivalry or special treatments. I treat my Fiancée very well, so don't think I am saying this as an excuse to mistreat women. I am arguing for the fact that, if you want equality, then shouldn't women expect nothing from men, just like how men should not expect anything from a women. Why am I expected to put a ring on her finger, why shouldn't a girl purpose to a guy and put a ring on his finger? Why are the old tradition of "women should be in the kitchen while men bring home the bacon" be interpreted as uncivilized while traditions like "Ladies first" or "Should always open the door for a lady" or "Men should be the one purposing" be seem as chivalry and expected of men?

Finally, the second song I have a problem with. "If I was a boy". She is singing the song like she really understands how boys / men feel. She is stating so many things that men do to women that are wrong. But she never explore the opposite side of the story, women do the same to men. I personally never cheated on anyone, but got cheated on twice. My ex, hung out with her friends and discuss which guy to lay in be with, while I slave at my job to support both of us and put her through trade school. I didn't get to hang out with the guys cuz she would come home and be pissed off. So I want to ask, "If she was a boy", what would be the difference? What give her the impression that being a boy is better than being a girl? Should she be singing, "If I was a smarter person"? she would get out of this situation and find a healthier one, like I did?

Women and men are different, and certain things should always be taken into consideration. I live with my Fiancée and is very happy with the arrangement we have. It is not equal, but that does not matter because she physically can not do what I do. I do the heavy lifting and she make sure my stomach is full. I take care of the mortgages and other things cuz I earn more than she does. But she treats me to lunch and dinner once in a while to let me know she appreciates what I do. Asking for total equality is never the solution because I am sure somewhere in this world, the roles my fiancée and I have are reversed. Where the woman earns more and are physically stronger while the man is doing his best to pull his own weight. But in the end what matter the most is, do not set double standards in a relationship, if someone has the ability to do more, do so not in expectation of the other person is going to balance it, but know that the person one day will do the same for you when you are not as capable.